How To Get The First Date Kiss (For Guys)

If you are a young single guys who wants to get out there and have fun mingling with attractive women then you might have asked yourself when the best time is to make your move and give the woman you like the first kiss. This is a question that has been debated for decades now (though it may have been answered in Christian H’s new GFAS, though that is neither here nor there…) For most guys this is less a matter of being too scared to make a move, and more about wanting to become masters of timing, in order to improve their chances of not blowing it when they find that one girl that they really like and want as a girlfriend.

If we can be honest, then there are few that would argue the point that while some guys seem to just have this natural flare and confidence that allows them to seduce a woman they just met, most of us “other guys” will likely take a few misses before we end up getting a kiss from a young lady whom we fancy. And this is also assuming that we don’t give up and quit prematurely).

Well, whether you are guy A or B, there are a few things you need to know to do well in the dating game, and make sure that you don’t jump the gun and start trying to kiss girls before they are ready.

First off, you want to focus all of your attention on the woman you are talking to. This is a key point, but it is something that most inexperienced guys fail to do. The reason this is so important is because the more that you pay attention to her, the more that you will be able to “tune in” to her vibe and be able to get a sense of where her head is at so that. With this information it will become very easy to tell whether she is ready to start kissing, or whether she would prefer to get to know you better before indulging in such behavior.

Next, you want to make sure that you don’t end up as that guy who is always getting stuck in the friend zone or is hardly noticed by women. Instead, you want to make subtle changes that transform you into the kind of guy that women chase. To be that guy you need exude confidence and one of the most important (yet overlooked) pieces of this is having a personal style that keeps the ladies on the edge of their seats.

The first step to having this kind of an attractive style is having lots of different outfits for every different sort of occasion. Women love guys who know how to dress sharply and on point regardless of the scenario. This is easier than it may sound. Just get a suit with a snazzy pair of shoes for special occasions, a sport coat and boat shoes for casual dinners and lunches, and I’m sure you already have plenty of t shirts and jeans for when you want to bum around the house or do low-key errands with her (just save that stuff for after the first couple of dates.)

Test this one out for yourself and I am sure you will find it’s true that women are much more eager to have a quick make-out session with a guy who presents himself in a confident and polished way.

Finally, try to make the psychological paradign shift to realizing that you, and not her, are truly the “prize”. I know that thsi wauy of thinking is pretty much the opposite of how we were all raised to think, but hwne you can wrap your head around this concept and start to really internalize it I think you will notice that women start responding to you much more positively and even aggressively than they ever have before. Women are turned off by men who settle for scraps and practically beg on their knees for female attention. You are better than that. Women want a man who has confidence and knows his self-worth.

Here’s the tldr version: Make sure you have your own sense of personal value before you go chasing skirts.

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Dating Advice for Men – How To Be More Dominant

If you want to make a good impression on the women you date, it is important to project a confident, masculine, and even dominant vibe. Because some people may misconstrue my words when I saw dominant, allow me to clarify. I am not referring to dominating your date or doing any kind of BSDM activities. Instead, I am referring to being a dominant force in your own life, like how dating coach Vin Dicarlo talks about it in his Dominant Sexual Power course.

Think about it like this, women don’t want to date some weak willed man who is blown about like a leaf in the wind. They want a strong man who is on his path in life, with a vision for the future that he is actively working towards a la David Deida.

That being said, when you are on a date it is important to turn your attention to the woman before you. Make sure that you give her your rapt attention, and be considerate of her needs and desires.  This means being attentive to her – considerate, thoughtful, and solicitous to her needs. She will appreciate basic gestures which indicate such thoughtfulness.

Also, turn off your cell phone. A lot of guys think that taking calls during a date shows that they are an important person, a “hot-shot” business tycoon or whatever, but really it shows the opposite. Men who are truly dominant are able to unplug and take time for personal pursuits when they see fit and are not endlessly tied to their phones, reacting to other people’s demands. So unless you are expecting a call that is a matter of life and death, or something akin to that, you should feel no need to check your text messages or return calls during a date.

Not to go overboard talking about this subject, but really, this is a big problem. Carrying on a long conversation on your phone when you are on a date is extremely rude. If a woman I was dating ever did this I’d walk away and go talk to another girl at the bar to teach her a lesson. So make a point to wait on replying to all the messages you’ve received, and let your calls go to voice mail. In the unlikely event that you are expecting a call of real urgency, tell your date about it ahead of time. of the matter.

Moving on, remember to always make your date feel like she has your complete attention. If she is shy, draw her out of her shell with questions that show that you are genuinely interested in getting to know her better, and not just getting her into bed. Listen to her answers attentively, and answer her questions about you with sincerity. This is the way that high value, dominant men interact with others.

Of course different women do require different sorts of attention, so do what you can to find out what “type” of girl she is. A good resource for understanding different types of women is a program called Pandora’s Box that was created by the aforementioned expert Vin DiCarlo.

As a dominant man, you should feel relaxed just being yourself.  Sure, it is natural to want to impress your date, and this is fully acceptable so long as you do not go to overboard and start trying to pretend you are something you are not.  Although you may try to highlight what you think are interesting and impressive things about you, don’t stray from the truth or you’ll regret it in the long run.

Furthermore, be sure not to go overboard sharing highly personal info with her, especially if you’re still in the getting-to-know-you phase. In particular, refrain from going on about any of your ex-girlfriends or ex-wives as this is considered a red flag by many women. Don’t talk about your family member’s problem’s with alcoholism or drug abuse. Don’t complain about your deranged boss, or annoying co-workers. Whining and complaining is not attractive behavior.

Instead, keep things light and interesting.  There is time enough for more intimate and profound conversations with her when you are over your first few dates and have already established considerable rapport and friendship with her.

I hope these pointers are helpful to you. Now go and enjoy being a dominant alpha male!

Get Your Ex Back By Maintaining a Positive Disposition

When you break up with a partner, expect to go through a difficult painful period.  A failed relationship often leaves you reeling from feelings of inadequacy.  Your self-esteem is likely to take a great plunge.  You feel inadequate, insecure, and frustrated.

However, at these times it is critical that you do not allow yourself to wallow in self-pity. Sure, it is natural to feel depressed , and nobody is expecting you to be all smiles after a break up but you need to think about the big picture and figure out if you want to try to rewind the relationship back to a happier time and try to get your partner back, or whether it is instead time to move on…

Although you may not spring back immediately following a difficult break-up, it pays to exert some effort towards this end.  Many people who have been through a rough break-up say that reading self-help books and talking to friends will help you acquire the right perspective.

The period following a break-up is usually the time where you realize what good times you had with your partner.  This is where it dawns on you what good partners you made for each other. This realization should be a good thing.  It should not lead to despair.  The focus should not be on your loss but on getting back what was yours.

Thinking about times past should bring back warm and lovely feelings for your partner.  It should prompt you to plan out how to get your ex back. It should be a time for exploring possibilities for reconciliation and planning out concrete steps leading to winning your ex back. Maintain a positive disposition during this time.  It will put you in the proper frame of mind for getting your ex back.

As mentioned I already mentioned many folks agree that it can be beneficial to read a self-help book or two like the popular Relationship Rewind course by Ryan Rivers after going through a break up. It is always a good idea to get advice from true relationship experts who have years of experience helping others like you to rebuild relationships. A vast resource of reviews of women’s dating and relationship guides can be found on

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What Every Man Needs To Know About Keeping A Relationship Alive

Players, womanizers, one-night stands: men’s reputations in the dating department aren’t exactly all that rosy. There’s this unfair assumption that men have it easy getting girlfriends, that all they need to do is walk into a bar, buy a girl a drink, drop some well-rehearsed pick-up lines and leave with the girl on his arm an hour later.

Nice boys can get a bad rep too, unfairly being put into that dreaded ‘friend-zone.’

So what’s a genuinely nice gentleman to do to truly find that perfect partner to spend the rest of his life with?

One of the most important things about dating is the need for respect for both sides. A gentleman should respect a lady, honoring her right to refuse him or to allow him to go further in a relationship. A gentleman worthy of the love of a sincere lady won’t be tagged as a ‘nice guy’ only looking to get some sort of reward as well; keep it real and genuine, and the woman will know the difference.

The issue of respect also extends to treating women as human beings. Never assume that they exist for your service, that they are there to ‘save’ you or add some color into your life.

Relationships mean growing and learning together, and that entails some changes both for you and the woman too.

Learn how to compromise; it’s easy to have resentment destroy a relationship. Always keep open lines of communication. Say what you mean and mean what you say, and make sure your partner knows this too. Too often many arguments start from a lack of communication.

Learn how to pick up on the subtle cues and hints. Surprise her every so often, and listen to her when she has problems. Be sensitive to the emotions of women; sometimes you won’t even need to offer advice, just be a listening ear.

Most of all, be gentle, and be kind. Relationships can be messy and frustrating, but approach all problems with care and patience, and your relationship won’t have to self-destruct.

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Are You A Guy Going On A Date? Here Are A Few Simple Tips…

Every man has gone through the pains of what to do and how to act while dating. More often than not, it causes a little bit of stress if you don’t really have a guide as to how to approach this sort of thing. Remember that each experience is different. If you’re the type who loves to go on multiple dates with different people than you’ll know that really, there’s no one single way to act around your companion. However, there are certain things, actions, and mannerisms which always bode well regardless of whoever you’re seeing.

Keep things fun. Sure you’ll have bad days when all you want to do is mope around, rant, and just let all of the bad energy out. Remember that a date is not one of those activities where you do these things. If you catharsis, give your best friend a call and let it all out before you go to your date. You’ll feel better about it and at the same time, free yourself of the negative energy that’s taking much of yourself. Keep it light and fun.

Everyone loves respect, and everybody deserves it as well. When you’re out on a date, always remember to be respectful of the other person. Be cautious about what topics are fun to talk about and what topics are simply out of the question to talk about. Steer clear of trying to pry too much into her problems and personal life, in fact, only talk about those topics if she initiates it. Keep in mind that the person you’re with would enjoy most when you make her feel more comfortable. Would you want someone who went over the border of your personal space and privacy? Of course not, so be courteous enough to engage in comfortable conversations.